Severe disappointment or a debilitating series of disappointments and setbacks can lead to a feeling of hopelessness - Doom and Gloom!
this could be just a step in a process of transformation...
![]()
![]()
Feeling Doomed!
...can be a step towards healing
![]()
![]()
![]()
![]()
|
I'm doomed! I'm finished! There's no way out No point in screaming (not worth a shout)
I've 'had my chips'
My life is over
My toil is done
No point going on
All is finished!
All is lost
Wall of blackness
All is dead
What happens next?
So here I wait.
Do your worst,
Take me now
End my suffering!
So why the delay?
I'm getting real tired
Do your stuff!
Well, where the hell are you? |
|
(from www.stress-counselling.co.uk © Michael Meredith 2002) |
|
![]()
![]()
Loving relationships...
Automatically updated self-help lists prepared for you at:
UK & Europe Canada USA
(all deliver world-wide)
Digging beneath the initial depression, we find a layer of self-pity - a distorted abberation of self-compassion and self-love which can easily lead to "victim" thinking. Perceptions of being a victim in turn can generate anger and aggression.
The self-pity is a dysfunctional attempt to attract fulfilment of unmet needs for love and support. If we stay stuck at the superficial levels of depression, self-pity, anger or aggression, we are in a state of mind, feeling and action which may further obstruct fulfilment of our need for love and support.
Depression leads to withdrawal from relationships and aggression repels people. However, pretending we do not feel this way, or trying to escape from these uncomfortable feelings can mean spending our lives under threat from them. Actually, the isolating effects of depression and aggression, can be a step towards healing. We have to learn to love ourselves and enjoy our own company before we can fully accept, enjoy and appreciate the love and companionship of others. We often need a teacher and guide to help us find the courage to confront unattractive feelings, the self-awareness to take control and the life skills to survive and learn from a self-perpetuating experience of fear, misery and isolation.
More poems & wisdom about stress: Index
That Sunflower WithinCopyrightSunflower Health |
Beauty in Wholeness© 2001-4Email enquiry form |