The Blaming Game...
...do we need quite so many judgements?
Zen Masters say
Blaming YOU, Blaming ME...
Endless assigning of responsibility...
Feeds my illusions - Gives sense of control
Feelings with targets can flow with such ease
Oh how I love My Blaming Game!
For I never make mistakes - I am never wrong!
When I rise to accept what Life and Destiny bring...
I create a rich future, freed from cursed blaming games
When I rise to accept what life's challenges bring
© Michael J. Meredith 1990
Taking responsibility for our errors and omissions is vital to the learning and growing which frees us from repeated cycles of stressful experiences - as the saying goes "Those who do not learn from the past are destined to repeat it!"
Inappropriate or excessive blaming of others gives away our personal power and sense of control to those who we tell ourselves are "responsible - guilty". We cannot solve stressful situations unless we give ourselves some personal power and influence (responsibility) over them.
Excessive blaming of ourselves - "Beating myself up" or self-harming can also be counter-productive. Inappropriate or excess self-blame generates internal conflict, inner fragmentation and a lowering of our energy and self-confidence just when we have a difficult setback or situation to deal with. Beating ourself up can lead into patterns of self-sabotage and even self-harm. "Survivor guilt" is an aspect of self-punishment which can follow from irrational self-blame behaviour.
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