Conflict in Relationships
 

Blaming Games: poem
 

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Beyond the Power Struggle
dealing with conflict in love and work

by Susan M. Campbell

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Contents

• FROM EITHER-OR TO BOTH-AND RELATIONSHIPS
  • Either-Or Thinking and the Power Sruggle
  • The Expanded View: Both-And in action
  • Reconciling the Irreconcilable
• POWER STRUGGLE & PARADOX
  • The Paradox of Surrender
  • My Search for Mr. Right
  • The Paradox of Avoidance
  • The Paradox of Understanding
  • The Iatrogenic Paradox
  • The Paradox of Responsibility
  • The Paradox of Disidentification
  • The Paradox of High Expectations
• WHAT'S THE STRUGGLE ABOUT?
  • We're all Different
  • But is it Safe to be Different?
  • License for Lunacy
  • The Meeting of Eastern & Western Medicine
  • The Importance of a Good Fight
• THE POLAR DIMENSIONS INVENTORY
  • Scoring the Polar Dimensions Inventory
• ATTRACTION, POLARIZATION, RECONCILIATION
  • Antagonistic & Complementary Differences
  • The Saver & the Spender
  • The Scurrier & The Dawdler
  • The Parallel Player & the Face to Face Player
  • The Lover & the Warrior
  • The Space Taker & the Space Maker
  • The Leaper & The Looker
  • The Thinker & The Feeler
• HOW & WHY WE GET STUCK IN STRUGGLE
  • Four Ways to Stay Stuck in Struggle
  • Fear of the Past Repeating Itself
  • Fear of the Future Turning Out Wrong
  • Attachments to having Your Way
  • Expecting the World to be as You Wish it Were
• ANATOMY OF AN ARGUMENT
  • "I'm Not in the Mood, Bruce"
  • The Ambivalent marriage of Bart & betty
  • Why Co-Workers Fight
  • How Interdependence Contributes to Friction
• YOUR THOUGHTS MAKE A DIFFERENCE
  • The Security/Control Mode of Coping
  • The Unity/Participation Position
  • How Attitudes Affect Outcomes
  • The Power of Your Thoughts
  • Reader Participation Activity
• RELATIONSHIP STRUGGLE REFLECTS INNER STRUGGLE
  • Physical Violence Against One's Other Side
  • Balancing Power & Love
  • The Bulldog at my Door
  • The Disowned Inner Critic
• SEX: CHANGING EXPECTATIONS, UNCHANGING BIOLOGY
  • Sexual Differences Between Males & Females
  • The Meaning of Impotence & Frigidity
  • Varieties of Sexual Scripts
  • Ways of Harmonizing Sexual Differences
• BOSSES, CO-WORKERS, & OTHER SEX OBJECTS
  • Business Affairs
  • What's a Boss To Do?
  • You are Not Alone
  • The Home-Office Connection
  • Does Sexuality Have a Place on the Job?
• TOWARDS RESOLUTION OF THE POWER STRUGGLE
  • The Either-Or World of Linda & George
  • Giving Up & Gaining Power
  • You Can See Forever
  • Take It Back!
  • Looking for the Softer Feelings
  • Bob & Rhonda's Struggle Beneath the Struggle
  • "There Must Be Something We Can Agree About!"
  • You Get What You Give
  • What's the Payoff?
• GUIDELINES FOR COMMUNICATION
• RITUALS FOR GETTING THROUGH THE POWER STRUGGLE
  • Telling Your Stories
  • Empty Chair Dialogue
  • Inner Dialogue in Writing
  • The Safespace
  • Sentence Completion
  • Do it Yourself "Marriage Encounter"
  • Resentments & Regards
  • Do You mean?
  • Sharing Withholds in Reverse
  • Common Vision
  • King/Queen for a Day
  • Identifying Your Personal Pattern in a Relationship
  • Advice for the Other
  • Round Table Role Exchange
  • Fishbowl
  • Confronting Differences
  • Image Exchange
  • Active Listening
• BEYOND THE POWER STRUGGLE
• EPILOGUE: On Nuclear Disarmament

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