False Self-esteem - Neurotic Pride
(Bullying, Controlling, Neurotic & Victim Behaviour)
neurotic pride encourages isolation & depression
Healthy high self-esteem is characterised by an open mind and flexible, warm, friendly, outgoing personality with a high standard of personal conduct. There is self-respect and self-love, combined with respect for others ("You're OK, I'm OK").
High self-esteem people can afford to be kind and generous because thay are not easily exploited, bullied or manipulated.
You may not always like what they say but you know where you stand with them and you can trust their honesty and integrity.
Low self-esteem is characterised by more closed, rigid and defensive (territorial hostility) behaviors and opinions. The world is repeatedly experienced as threatening, demanding or unsupportive, which leads to free-flowing anxiety or constant frustration and anger. Self-hatred and self-recrimination are common underlying dynamics in low self-esteem despite superficial behaviour involving arrogance and denigration of others ("stabbing people in the back", malicious gossip, high-handed criticism).
If the anger is internalized the experience of depression is created.
Ingrained feelings of inadequacy and a deep inner fear of inferiority is defended (hidden, compensated for) by false self-esteem (also known as neurotic pride) which is a sense of personal value and safety based on accumulation of achievements, power or status, combined with denigration of other people, aggressive emotions, control, bullying, fear, manipulation or exploitation of others.
The subconscious agenda and perception underlying false self-esteem are:
Maintaining neurotic pride takes up lots of our time and energy. Letting go of these behaviours and healing the underlying wounds, negative self-beliefs and judgements puts us in touch with:
- solid personal value, experiencing mutual love and respect in relationships
- freedom and aliveness not based on the constantly vulnerable pedestal of being in control or being superior
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~ WAYS & RESOURCES TO RAISE SELF-ESTEEM ~ your search will open in a new "window" | |
Bullying & Harassment in School or Workplace: resources
Low & High Esteem in Relationships: Toxic Relationships
Cure Depression & Bipolar Disorder: Transcend Ego Dramas
Protect against Attacks driven by Low Self-Esteem: Psychic Protection & Energy Vampires
