Self-Esteem Enhancement - Lowering False Self-Esteem
(Bullying, Controlling, Neurotic & Victim Behaviour)
Pseudo-Self-Esteem (Neurotic Pride) leads to Separateness & Insecurity
Healthy, high self-esteem is characterised by an open mind and flexible, warm, friendly, outgoing personality with a high standard of personal conduct. There is self-respect and self-love, combined with respect for others ("You're OK, I'm OK"). Parents' levels of self-esteem, be they high or low, encourage the development of equivalent personal value and self-confidence in their children.
High self-esteem people can afford to be compassionate, kind and generous to others because thay are not easily exploited, bullied or manipulated.
You may not always like what they say but you know where you stand with them and you can trust their honesty and integrity.
Unhealthy, Low self-esteem is characterised by more closed, rigid, defensive (territorial hostility) and often either insensitive or self-deprecating behaviors, judgements and opinions. The world is repeatedly experienced as abusive, threatening, demanding or unsupportive, which leads to free-flowing anxiety or constant frustration and anger.
Victimhood, self-hatred, over-work (over-doing things), narcissistic self-promotion or self-recrimination are common underlying dynamics in low self-esteem despite superficial behaviour involving arrogance and denigration of others ("stabbing people in the back", malicious gossip, high-handed criticism).
If the anger is internalized i.e. held within us, then experiences of hostility, rejection, isolation and depression will become intensified over a period of time (see Anger Management & Release).
Ingrained feelings of inadequacy and a deep inner fear of inferiority is defended (hidden, compensated for) by false self-esteem (also known as neurotic pride) which is a sense of personal value and safety based on accumulation of achievements, power or status, combined with denigration of other people, aggressive emotions, control, bullying, fear, manipulation or exploitation of others.
Low self esteem adults or kids are experienced by others as "difficult", "manipulative", "demanding", "miserable", "negative", "stressful" or "draining"! They tend to generate stress and weariness in the people around them in the home, workplace or even in leisure activities. The subconscious agenda and perception underlying false self-esteem are:
Maintaining neurotic pride takes up lots of our time and energy. Letting go of these behaviours and healing the underlying wounds, negative self-beliefs and judgements puts us in touch with:
- solid personal value, experiencing mutual love and respect in relationships
- freedom and aliveness not based on the constantly vulnerable pedestal of being in control or being superior
Self-esteem Enhancement Courses & Workshops: UK Personal Development & Assertiveness Training
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~ WAYS & RESOURCES TO RAISE SELF-ESTEEM ~ your search will open in a new "window" | |
Protect Yourself against Attacks driven by Low Self-Esteem: Psychic Protection & Energy Vampires
Low & High Esteem in Healthy & Unhealthy Relationships: Toxic Relationships
Bullying & Harassment in School or Workplace: Help for Bullying Problems
Potential Cure for Depression & Bipolar Disorder: Transcend Ego Dramas
You are the Result of the Love of Thousands!
Soul Loss & Soul Retrieval - Shamanic Healing of Low Self-Esteem
